Hello there Dear Readers, Dearhearts, and Soon to be Dearhearts! I dropped on in to The Daily Moogle offices and found a letter from one of you, waiting there just for me! WOW! It was a really big letter too, I guess my advice about being more specific really paid off, didn’t it. Let’s get started on the details of this one.
Dear Wes, I have a very dear friend. We’ve known each other for a while now. However, I’ve noticed of late that she has signs of affection to me. but I don’t think I feel the same way. We’ve been friends for ages and I don’t want that to change, but I feel this might do just that. I know confronting her about it is probably the best option, but I would like to hear your opinion on it.
Dear Reader, I have actually been approached with this very question before, not in my column but back when I was handing out papers at the Phoenix Trading event some moons back. I met a lot of faces there, and answered a few questions, though I have a feeling you’re not the one that asked before. So let me dig back through the butterfly dust of advice and re-iterate those points. Or, I might not have to delve quite so far into them, because, Dear Reader, it looks like you already know what I’m going to say.
Now, when we talk about confrontation, it comes in many forms. In this one, with this subject being as delicate as my wings, you must must MUST be both gentle and firm. Gentle, as in breaking the news to them gently. Firm, as in standing by your convictions. Let her know your feelings. Let her know that you value the friendship SO much, and that you really love the way it is right now. If you don’t think you feel the same way, chances are you don’t feel the same way. Usually, our stomach instincts are right. If you don’t get that wibbly wobbly fluttery feeling in there, the chances of it happening are slim. Especially if you’ve known them for a long time. Now that’s not to say it doesn’t happen, just that it is less likely! But for now, that’s not how you feel, and encouraging them or even not saying anything could be far more detrimental in the long-run. They will be hurt, my friend. And it might take some time for them to recover from this, your friendship just might take a bit of a blow.
I’ve been in their shoes, Dear Reader. I had a friend, someone I actually grew up with, and I thought the world of her! She was pretty, she was witty, she would beat up anything that threatened me.. but every time I’d try to kiss her, she’d either smack me or… well alright the last time she punched me, and let me tell you, I did -not- try to kiss her again after that! But that was her way of letting me know that, nope, her feelings were not the same. I wish I could say that we’re still friends now, but she flitted off to somewhere else in Eorzea than where I was staying, and we lost contact. Maybe I’ll see her again someday, but I’ve got my own Flower now, I don’t need her fists. Only her friendship, if she’s still willing to give it.
Thank you. All of you, my lovely Dear Readers. I appreciate every time I flit by the office and catch one of your fluttery inquiries. I am really glad to know that I can help you, even if it’s just a tiny pinch of butterfly dust at a time.
Speaking of helping, there’s a few things I’m helping out with in the future. One of them is called an E G F? They’ve asked me to come in and talk about the matches when they’re going on! WOW! It sounds so exciting, and I’m really looking forward to it. For once I’ll get to see -others- being punched instead of my own nose! Along a slightly different path, there’s also the Daily Moogle six month anniversary coming up and there’s going to be a Chocobo Fashion show! I plan on being there to help out wherever they decide to put me. So keep a watch out for my butterfly wings, and don’t be afraid to come and say hello! And as usual, I am always looking for more forms from the Matchy Dates to be turned in! I’m still having trouble fitting the pieces together, so getting more forms in really should help with this! If you’re looking for a Dearheart and you’ve not turned in a form, I encourage you to! And if you have turned in a form, thank you for your continued patience! I promise I’ll make up matches just as soon as something looks to be a good one.
Now it’s time for this Butterfly Man to flit away and do some other kinds of work. You didn’t think that butterflies only answered advice columns, did you? Until next time…