Hello Dearhearts and Dear-soon-to-be-hearted! Let me tell you I am SO excited to be answering more of your questions about that topic on everyone’s mind… LOVE. L-O-V-E… that thing I see everywhere but somehow seem to deftly avoid it for myself all the time.. hmm. Ah, but that’s neither here nor there, Dear Readers, because I am Here AND There for YOU! Let’s get into these questions now and see what sort of problems your hearts face.
1) How do you know when someone is it, you know, the real deal? When you can say “They are the one!”
WOW. Hitting me with the hard stuff straight away, as hard as I hit the Butterfly Dust. This is a question that I, Butterfly Man Wes, can only answer in part. You see, for each of you Dearhearts out there, only you can truly tell what is the real deal and what is not. If the Special Someone in your life is someone that you think of day and night and can’t get off your mind no matter how hard you try, that is only part of it, I’m afraid. It’s a good start! A very good start. But the real deal comes with being around them, learning about them, and.. read this closely Dearhearts.. seeing their flaws. That sounds horrible, doesn’t it? But it isn’t. If you see your Special Someone in the worst of times and know that those flaws are flaws that you can handle, -then- you’ll have a better grasp on if they’re the Real Deal or not. Every relationship goes through a beginning Enchanted Phase, where the Special Someone can do NO WRONG. And that simply isn’t the case. If they continue to do No Wrong, you might want to look into seeing if they’re an Allagan Machine or something cause.. that’s a bit fishy isn’t it? Face the flaws. If they’re too much, then this isn’t the right Dearheart for you. If you can help or accept the less than ideal details, then you just might be looking at your Forever Dearheart!
2) How do you tell someone that you are into them but you don’t want anything serious. Seriously I worry he wants more but I am not ready for that kind of commitment.
My goodness.. I’m going to run out of Butterfly Dust at this rate… My Sweet Dearheart, there is but one thing to do here. Be honest and forthright. Wait, is that two things? Maybe it’s two. But they go hand in hand, just like you want to do with your potential Dearheart. Tell him, just like you told me. ‘I’m not ready for a strong commitment, but I would like to see where something might go with us.’ That’s all you have to do. If he tries to push you into something tighter knit, then he may not be the Dearheart for you and you’ll need to talk to him about it. Keeping an open and honest line of communication is key in -any- friendship.. whether it’s colleagues, just friends, potential future Dearhearts, or current Dearhearts. Where there is no communication, there is no solid foundation. I’m a poet and didn’t know it. HA!
Alright Dear Readers, that’s it for me this time, these questions have knocked me off my wings! Though please, do keep the questions coming in, I’m always ready and willing to flit the answers of LOVE into your lives! Until next time, keep being the Dear Hearts to my Butterfly Wings!